I'm an Adult I can DO what I WANT!

People should learn not to say stupid things around me, because they know later, it will come back to haunt them! :)



An acquaintance of mine recently wanted his way about things. I forget exactly what ridiculous argument had ensued, except that it ended with his statement: "I'm an adult I can do what I want." It got me to thinking... >:) Can he in fact live with his own rule? I asked him if he was in fact a god, if only his rules applied to him or do his rules apply to everyone? He didn't know what that meant. Just then another driver cut him off in traffic. He cussed and screamed at the man through the windshield. (The windshield was definitely intimidated by such a brutal verbal assault.) I couldn't help the maniacal smile that spread across my face (hee hee..) "Well," I said offhandedly, "maybe he's an adult and can do what HE wants." :) Of course, that got a rise out of the young man. Then of course, I began to chew my gum, loudly naturally, and then to pop bubble after bubble, after annoyingly loud bubble. It took nearly 15 minutes until he screamed, "STOP THAT!!!!" I looked around innocently, "what?...... I'm an adult I can do what I want, and besides I'm older than you are, so I can do MORE of what I want than you can!" (It really bites when your idiotic statement has to apply across the board, huh?)
A similiar incident happened just the other day. I was with a friend and his son (who is only seven years old) and sometimes it's hard to tell which one is seven. As my friend is distracted, the young man proceeds to start playing with dials and switches which he's not suppose to touch. Then the youngster found the light switch and as I was trying to research some things the strobe of iridescent lights on..light off, lights on,.light off, light on strobe was starting to fry my nerves. "Please stop," I asked the lad. The lights, air conditioner anything with a switch continued to be played with nonstop. GGGrrrrr.... I went up front to tell my friend his kid was harrassing me with the equipment and he whipped around and screamed, "HE'S JUST BEING A KID!"
" ..... okay.... " ,I thought. Is this what parents have come to? In my day, my father would have threatened to break my fingers if I so much as LOOKED at a switch again!! not to mention I would have had to follow up with a sincere apology to the adult I had annoyed! Well...this young man should thank his lucky stars that he can do anything he wants and his parent will excuse it with a colloquialism. I guess then a murderer is just venting frustration, a rapist is just finding a date, and my bad behaviour can be chalked up to "just being an artist." LOL


Ironic that the simple statement, "I'm an adult, I can do what I want" implies such immaturity and childishness in the very expression. If one is going to make excuses for one's bad behaviour and reckless abandon of responsibility, please use a better sounding proclamation. If your going to excuse your children's bad behaviour with "he's just being a kid", don't be suprised if that teenager he grows into is the one tagging cars and stealing stereos systems as you excuse it with..."he's just being a teenager."
I caution those that make their own set of rules to live by. Make sure you can live with them to! ;)

It's HIS Fault!

A friend of mine introduced me to his girlfriend awhile ago. A young, twenty-something-year-old, blonde flopped down next to me and proceeded to tell me her life story. Often fascinated where people come from and where they are going, I listened quietly to her woes. She's had a hard life already but to make matters worse she throws out the phrase, "he makes my whole world, I don't know what I'd do without him,... he makes me so happy."


And what do I think? You who know me already know what I'm thinking.... YIKES!


There is a danger when you make someone else responsible for your emotional state. (Women seem to do this more than men.) This young woman is going to lose her man very quickly. I give it about 5 months tops.


So why, what is the problem with her being happy with a new relationship?


The problem is emotional responsibility. It is a very different mindset to say to yourself or someone else... "I'm happy when I'm with him" vs. "He makes me happy". In the first sentence, you are a complete person already and don't need someone to make or break your emotion. You find happiness in the relationship but are not dependant on him as the entire source. In the latter sentence, he is soley responsible when you are upset, happy, moody, ecstatic, sad...etc.


As predicted, months later she is unhappy because time and attention from her beau are not what it started out to be in the beginning. A vicious circle now ensues. She is unhappy, calls him constantly to whine, moan, belate her state of unhappiness. In her mind, HE now is responsible to "fix" this state by doing or saying something to make her happy again. Of course, there is nothing he can do because tomorrow the problem will exist again. Over time, the relationship dissolves bitterly. She blames him for not "making" her jubilant, she puts herself in a constant state of being depressed, perturbed, anxious, angry which perpetuates stress taken out on everyone. He feels "trapped" into a relationship which there is always a problem that never seems to be able to be solved. Men tend to be "problem-solvers". They strive to find solutions to live generally stress free lives. They like when the people around them are stress free. Right now, the relationship is in its death throes. He doesn't really want to talk to her, she can only call with constant back biting comments and a constant anger directed at him.

Solution: Fellow females, we need to be more supportive of people. Life can be light-hearted, happy, stable when we want it to be. First, we need to be complete people in ourselves. One can not depend on others for happiness or fulfillment. These are things we need to have before we get into a relationship. I can't tell you how many times I've seen my friends destroy what could have been a great relationship, except for the fact that she depended on him to make her a complete person. My suggestion is to find your own hobbies, your own friends, your own likes or dislikes. You don't have to love football because he does. You don't have to make all his friends yours. Be two separate people who take joy in being with each other on a mature, respectful level. You'll find that it may take some work to overcome that natural destructive instinct, but if you are pleasant, you'll find that life becomes a joy to live!!! :)

The Magicians Owl

The Beauty of the Beast

Beauty is a beast, terrible and real
A predator stalking her every meal
The seas of grass hide her face
Her muscles work with liquid grace
A heart of thunder beats within
Wicked fangs 'neath a wicked grin
A flash of orange, light o' white
Talons of death, gripping tight
All is sudden, then all is still
She walks away with treasured kill

Back to shadows, darkness, trees
For now the beauty is appeased.

The Magicians Owl